Wills on extra time with Andrew after donating his bone marrow.

One thing I will add is that a lot of my memories that I still remember with Andrew came during this period from after the bone marrow transplant. Like we got to go to Hawaii on a vacation and there were all these memories that were made that I still have. Some of the most important and meaningful moments of my life with Andrew happened during that time. So it felt very good to do the bone marrow transplant and start that period of time.

Esther on a mother’s intuition.

I think that as a parent, you know when something's wrong. I think that often we're like, ‘well that person's a doctor, that person's an expert. So we have to listen to them. We have to listen because they know the best.’ And I've learned from this experience that you really have to trust your intuition. I feel like I knew what was going on. I didn't know it was cancer because that wasn't in my vocabulary, but I knew something was terribly wrong. And I found my voice through that experience. Now I will always speak up for what I feel is right. I think I was much more meek. I mean, society, I can go into a long thing around how women are taught to defer to authority and to defer to the experts. I don't do that anymore. I think through this process, most or all big decisions were perfectly clear to me in an instant. Which was, it almost feels like, a superpower. But any big medical decision from there on, I knew what my answer was immediately. I did not need to go into a long thought process. There were some really hard decisions we needed to make with Andrew, and I didn't even have to take a moment to think, ‘Esther, listen to your intuition.’ I just knew.

What Andrew continues to teach the family about living life.

I do not look back with regrets at all. Everything that we experienced with Andrew, I don't look back at the what ifs and the regrets because it's just what happened, and it's the way life was. We did the best that we could, and we're proud of the life that we gave Andrew. It was my husband and my 17th anniversary yesterday, and my five-year-old daughter turned to me and gave me a hug. She said, ‘Thank  for giving me life, Mom.’ And I had this reflective moment of like, oh my gosh, I don't know if she'll listen to this one day, but, if Andrew had not died, I don't know if she would be here. We might have another child, but I don't know if she would be her. But I don't look back and say, oh well, because Andrew died, Cori came into life, so everything's great. You know, I just look at it like that it is what it is. And I'm grateful for what we have. And I'm grateful for what we had with Andrew. And life is hard and it's complicated. But I'm proud of where we are right now.